Last Thursday (October 11th) was National Coming Out Day. Now, until last year, I had no idea that such a day even existed, or was even necessary, really. I thought every day was the day to come outóno time like the present, yea? Apparently I was wrong, but whatever. I suppose it has to happen once in my lifetime.
Oh, now that's an adorable little graphic....
Well, in honor of NCOD, I'm going to take a look at the "coming out movie."
Now, I'm not going to lie and try to BS my way through this. I haven't seen that many coming out movies and of the very few I have seen, none of them were very memorable. Aside from one, that is.
My favorite coming out movie of all time:
BUT I'M A CHEERLEADER
I loved this movie. If you haven't seen it, you should. Gay, bisexual, straight, or anything else in between, it's definitely worth a look.
It stars Natasha Lyonne as Megan Bloomfield, a cheerleader who is told by her friends and family that she is a lesbian and she needs help. One very confusing stay at a rehabilitation camp later, she realizes she's gay and she's okay with that! And she falls in love, too! How perfect.
It's a hilarious look at these camps that, sadly, actually exist in far too high numbers. Really, check it out.
But, when it comes to the
coming out film, that's where my knowledge stops.
The gay... it strikes anywhere!
My question here is: what is the point of the coming out film? You don't have to see a large number of them to know the basic plot line of them.
-Boy or girl is gay.
-Boy or girl either denies this vehemently or accepts it.
-Family/friends/teachers either offer support or disown said boy or girl.
-Most of the time there is a love interest involved who either helps the boy or girl come to terms with his or her sexuality, or the boy or girl helps them to realize their sexuality.
Coming out is not a movie moment. It just isn't. Sorry, but no. Granted, there are some movies which hit it on the nose for a large number of people, but it still doesn't mean that it's going to go like that for everyone.
I would even go so far to say that coming out movies can hinder the coming out process. It paints an overly dramatic view of coming out. A movie where a girl is kicked out of her house for being gay can keep someone in the closet out of fear. Likewise, a happy ending can make someone think that everyone will be a-okay with homosexuality.
Those aren't always the cases, and if you're expecting a happy ending when you tell your fundamentalist Christian parents that you and
your "roommate" are doing the nasty, well, you may be in for a rather unpleasant surprise. Especially when said "roommate" decides it's time to move on (to that hot new waitress at the bar).
...but somehow she didn't KNOW she was a lesbian.
Not everyone is supportive, but not everyone is going to throw you out on your ass.
The odds of you ending up spending the rest of your life with your first girlfriend are slim.
What I'm trying to say here is that, yes, coming out movies can be entertaining. They can even make someone feel less alone when they do decide to finally come out.
But, I don't encourage kids to use them as a guideline for coming out. Coming out is something personal that you have to decide; not a movie. Everyone's circumstances are different.
As a side note, I would like to recommend an interesting twist on a coming out movie short. I haven't seen this, but I'd like to.
STRAIGHT FROM THE SUBURBS directed by Carole Ducharme
According to the plot summary on IMBD.com, the story is about Mary, who is raised in a queer community, but struggles with her sexuality when she realizes she is actually straight. The run time is only twenty-five minutes, but what a concept.
Coming out as straight. Who knew?
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